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Honestly... I Freeze Up at Times with My Family

Pastor Tony Myles

Your family experience is one of the biggest  influences on your identity, sense of belonging and purpose.  

• God  the family to be where we discover who He is and what His love, goodness and power feel like.
• He meant it to begin in a  marriage between a husband and wife who overflow Christ into any kids.  

Sadly, every home is messed up...

• which can make us feel  up...
• so we  up and blow up...
• or shut up and freeze up...
• but rather than break up, God calls us to  up. 

All of your family members have blurry ways of dealing with the things they don't clearly know how to deal with. 

• "Whoever troubles his own household will inherit the wind, and the fool will be servant to the wise of heart." (Proverbs 11:29)

Check Your Family Tree...

 Honestly... is one person's  impacting everyone's present? 

• 2 Samuel 12:9-14
• What we model gets mimicked or inverted... unless God gets to be .

 Honestly... is someone's unchecked  taking over? 

• 2 Samuel 13:1-2a, 15
• We all have impulses and desires that can cause us to reach for  that looks like water... and then leave it in the family .

 Honestly... in not speaking, what am I ? 

• 2 Samuel 13:21-22
• Sometimes we're mute because their sin is the  we started.
• Other times we freeze up because "" is the new . 
• If you don't speak the truth in love, you will eventually resent the people you love. Truth without grace is . Grace without truth is . You need both to foster a healthy home. 

 Honestly... what is building beneath appearances? 

• 2 Samuel 13:23, 28-29, 36-38
• Time doesn't heal all wounds - it only  healing.
• Even where there is devastating hurt, there can still be a loving longing. 

Honestly... how might dissatisfaction spread to others from just one person who freely ? 

• 2 Samuel 15:1-6, 16
• What appears to not be a direct attack is often a  one.

Honestly... are you super clear on the best ? 

• 2 Samuel 18:9, 33
• When someone in the family gets what others may think they deserve, things are not inherently better... there is a .

Check Your Family Tree Again...

What am I not considering?

• Matthew 1:6, 17
• Galatians 3:13, 26-27
• 1 Peter 2:23-24 (ESV) 

Honestly...

• You do need to let your  say something.
• You do need to surrender your desire to be . 
• You do need to be tested to discover better . 
• You do need to be forgiven so you can . 
• You do need to let the curse you were handed be handed off. 
• You do need to let others feel their choices, not be releasing them from something but to . 

Don't miss this: As a part of God's family, you don't have to freeze up...

for you will never run out of , , , , , ...to give your flawed family, because God is God. 

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Truth without grace is mean. Grace without truth is meaningless. You need both to foster a healthy home. If you can't speak the truth in love, you will eventually resent the people you love.